Does It Sound Like He Just Wanted Some Space?
So I had met a guy a few weeks ago. We hung out on a few occasions at his place, and we had also kissed, cuddled, etc. He had asked me the last night I saw him if he was gonna get to see me that weekend, and I told him maybe (in a joking tone). Well, I tried to make plans with him the next day and I think that might have turned him off, cause I didn’t hear from him the next day and he declined me hanging out with him that day I asked him. So I sent him an IM a day or so later (advice from a guy friend of mine) asking what he was up to and saying I hadn’t heard from him in a while. He tells me he was locked out of his house. He was pretty vague and our conversation was very short.
That was the last time I officially talked to him before today. That was a week ago. Today he im’ed me and seemed all happy to talk to me. He’s like, “Hey
”. I say hey back, and he was like, sorry I haven’t been able to get a hold of you all week”. I told him it’s cool and that I’d been busy and was currently in Toledo visiting my bff. He said he had been doing a lot of couch hopping (due to being locked out) and had just been working and what not. Had told me his roommate is moving back to Louisiana in a month or so. I honestly thought I was not going to hear from this dude again, but maybe he just did need space.
A couple things that went on in the conversation..
I told him how I was visiting my best friend in Toledo and I had carbs galore and had Taco Bell (he knows I eat low carb), and he was like, aww.. I missed you eating carbs and didn’t even get to take you out to eat? I was like, yeah you did. He goes, “grr.. lol” I was like, maybe next time. He said to let him know the next time I’m going to break my diet and we’ll go to an Italian place. Then I had mentioned about me going ice skating and I told him afterwards that I was a lot better than I was the first time. He told me that I’ll have to teach him to ice skate.
Thoughts? I really didn’t think I’d hear from him again since a week had passed. Does it sound like he possibly did need space? He had told me in the beginning that he wanted to take things slow and just casually date and stuff and get to know one another. I feel like maybe he thought I was starting to smother him so he backed off.
It doesn’t sound like you were coming onto him too fast at all; he might just be flaky about committing to even a relationship or following up on conversations.